Growing up has allowed me to be unashamed of the things I wear, thankfully.
I remember a time in the 6th grade when I wore a ruffled skirt over my Limited Too jeans (throwback) – I felt pretty confident because I had seen the same thing in Seventeen, so I thought I was ahead of the curve. The boy I liked at the time made an embarassing comment in front of my whole class about how weird it was. I was crushed. (With time, I also gained better taste in men, thankfully).
As I’ve grown older, I’ve learned to brush these things off.
I have always loved a vintage look. When I was in high school, all I wanted to do was pull off a red lip in classic Scarlett O’Hara fashion. I remember telling one of my friends this and again, they said – “that’s weird.” This was 2010, so Pinterest and red lips weren’t popularized yet.
I finally got the courage to try it out the end of my Senior year. I wore an old Hollywood black lace dress to my prom and rocked a red lip. From then on, I never took it off.
Fast forward to 2017 and everyone wears lipstick… all. the. time. So who is weird now?! … just kidding.
I started to use my lipstick as a way to be less afraid of breaking into trying other styles. It’s incredible the amount of confidence something on your face can give you – or at least the appearance of confidence. And hey, fake it ’til you make it, they say. I’ve heard an unbelievable amount of comments about the way it comes off – people have told me I don’t look like I’m afraid of anything when I wear it. And honestly, I love that.
I don’t want to seem like I’m afraid of anything. I want to be free to be me. I don’t want to have to tell the boy who doesn’t like skirts over jeans that I don’t care what he thinks… I want to show him by truly not even bothering to notice his opinion.
I always think about this quote, “I don’t want to look pretty. I want to look otherworldly and vaguely threatening.”
So maybe lipstick has become a suit of armor for me, I don’t know. Maybe that’s silly, but it helps me communicate to the world – this is who I am.
The Look: Top - Sugar + Lips, Skirt - Forever 21, Shoes - Steve Madden, Sunglasses - Quay, Clutch - Vivo
This look is very romantic – I’ve had the flowy light pink skirt for years and it’s a piece I never get tired of. The color is the “new neutral,” so I feel like it mixes well with almost everything.
I really liked the grommeting and tassel detail on the shirt – that’s what initially drew me in. It’s also versatile for work and play, which is a plus. I’ve already taken it out dancing with my friends and you better believe I was twirling the tassels.
This bag was probably one of my first “big girl purchases” as a working adult. I sometimes travel to work trade shows for Brackish, the company I work for. I traveled over the summer to Atlanta Americasmart, where THOUSANDS of brands exhibit and meet with potential buyers.
You see a lot of crazy stuff, but a lot of amazing stuff too. VIVO was one of the amazing ones. Diane handcrafts these bags out of cow hide and shagreen.
Because it’s a wholesale show, some designers will let you purchase at cost (generally 50% off or more). You have to ask for an “accommodation order” and some people will look at you with disgust, but I would say my handbag was worth taking that chance. I carry it everyday – and it has a strap that you can pull out for easier carrying. I love it.
For my musical pick I give you Big Thief, a Brooklyn band you can see at SXSW here. I really love the lyrics in this song.